Increasing Emotional Resiliency

Marilyn Orr

In the coaching world we talk about “self mastery”. I see it as the foundational work we need for ongoing resiliency. That ability to bounce back and even thrive during or after difficult times and situations is made up of multiple skills, habits and beliefs. In Psychology training many years ago, we learned about ‘the 3-legged stool’. When we want to bring about lasting change in our own life or supporting change for someone else there are 3 key areas to examine:

Behavioural - examining choices and making changes

Cognitive - understanding thinking patterns and where they are faulty

Emotive - what emotions are connected to situations, relationships, etc.

There are many theories as to which comes first. The bottom line though is that each one impacts the other two. When my mood is elevated I will think more positively and am more likely to make better behavior choices.

Exciting Event Announcement! 

On Saturday April 27, 2019 we will be hosting a transformational full day event at our new Texas Hill Country event venue The Cedars Ranch entitled " Fierce Self-Compassion: Unplug Your Inner Critic ". It is a day focused, truly, on resiliency. We have planned the day to support us all in growing our skills to provide us all with better foundations for living well.

Our afternoon is a total treat, giving us a chance to learn from self-compassion pioneer, Dr. Kristin Neff. Being able to change our thinking towards ourselves is foundational to all other changes to our thinking, feeling and behavior. Dr. Neff is both an exceptional academic and a very grounded practical speaker.

Our morning will feature a selection of practical workshops that will help us train our thinking and build our own personal capacity. Neil Stegall from Mariposa Sangha will lead morning workshops in mindfulness meditation - dovetailing seamlessly with Kristin Neff's "mindful self-compassion" approach that she'll share further during her afternoon keynote presentation. 

I will be hosting interactive morning workshops focused specifically on exercises that increase your resiliency from an emotional perspective. Making use of my resiliency workbook " How Absorbent Are Your Shocks? " on increasing personal capacity, participants will have time and support to focus on what will help them the most and will leave with more helpful activities.

Interwoven throughout this day of personal growth and transformation, will be opportunities to unplug, relax and enjoy nature at   The Cedars Ranch. We’ll have some creative outdoor activities and quiet reflection zones, as well as opportunities for herb walks on the land. 

If you want to travel in for this day, consider staying on for the weekend to enjoy Wimberley, Austin or San Antonio. Wimberley is in the middle of wine country, the area has multiple music events on any given day, and the nature in the region is spectacular.

Bill and I look forward to sharing this beautiful space, our new gorgeous venue and this wonderful event with you all! What better gift could you give yourself than a chance to increase your ability to be well regardless of what is going on in your life?

Until next time,

Marilyn Orr

Marilyn Orr, MA, CEC, PCC is an Executive and Leadership Coach with   Capacity Building Coaching , holding her Professional Certified Coach designation with the International Coach Federation. Marilyn provides professional coaching for executive and business leaders, mentor coaching for coaches, and leadership development support in the form of coaching skills training and soft-skills development. Contact Marilyn for more information.

Marilyn is author of everyday resiliency workbook “How Absorbent Are Your Shocks?”, available on   Amazon . Subscribe to “ Marilyn’s Musings ” twice monthly blogposts for more leadership and professional development content.

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