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  • Love Languages

    This week I'm sharing a blogpost that I wrote last year on love languages. It's always timely! Hope you enjoy!The idea that we hear love and speak love in different ways has been made widely popular and very accessible by the work of Gary Chapman. I highly recommend his book, in fact I give it to all the young couples in our family.   Read More...

  • Facing Fear in Texas Y'all!

    When it comes to fear in some ways I’m very fearless and in others I’m a scaredy cat. One of the highest ranked fears - public speaking - I quite enjoy. I don’t like having needles but they don’t really bother me.   Read More...

  • From Manipulation to Authenticity

    As promised (last week), today I want to focus on offering ideas for those of you who see this pattern in yourself but want to grow.Here is the tricky part. Manipulation often gets people what they think they want. It reinforces itself.If I don’t want to feel pain and by lying I avoid the pain then I’m likely to try that again.If I want you to feel bad for me and do something nice for me and that works then I’m likely going to use that perspective of myself as a victim again.The patterns around ...  Read More...

  • Influence or Manipulation?

    Baby’s do it, Moms do it, CEOs do it. The truth is, we all do it. Some of us overtly, some of us in ways we are not even conscious of.   Read More...

  • Upside Down Thinking

    On Monday I made a commitment to my personal trainer, who was coaching me, to journal about my upside-down thinking. Why not up the “vulnerability factor” and share that with you? I know that if I wrestle with something, there are other people out there wrestling too.So, when I take the self-compassion test by Dr.   Read More...

  • The Gift of Writing

    Recently I learned that there is not evidence to suggest that weekly or daily blogging supports your business in measurable ways. It takes time, energy and dedication. So, why am I still doing it? As I share my reasons you can be sure that I will be requesting that you consider the possible benefits for yourself.   Read More...

  • The Skill of Truth-Telling

    Whether it’s the omission of a fact, the little white lie or an intentional deception, we have all participated in offering an inaccurate slant on reality. Why do we do it? So many reasons. To impress, to avoid consequences, to avoid being judged, to try and get our own way, to avoid feeling shame, to avoid hurting someone else’s feelings, to get the job or the promotion. Current events have focused a lot lately on how the lack of truth-telling can come back and bite y...  Read More...

  • Don’t Tell Me I Can’t!

    There is a long list of things people have told me I can’t do, shouldn’t do, won’t be successful at doing. Many of those things I have done.  You too? There’s something about a challenge that I find hard to resist.   Read More...

  • 5 Principals of Encouragement

    As a coach I have the honor of getting to hear people’s very personal thoughts, fears and insecurities. We all have them.  We also all get to experience overwhelm at times.   Read More...

  • Lessons in Celebration

    Many years ago a friend gave me a Willow Tree Angel - this one:  I love her. I think of her as “Celebration” but she is actually “Courage”. Fascinating. Courage and celebration do go together I think.   Read More...

  • The Power of Mentoring

    There has been a lot to think about this past week. Somewhere around 100 topics have gone through my mind as things to write about. “Alternative facts”, the “Women’s Marches”, values-based leadership. Some days feel so consumed with negative or stressful news that I’m choosing instead to write about one of the other themes that is filling our lives. Bill and I are the new kids on the block when it comes to owning a wedding venue or being in any ...  Read More...

  • Infusing FUN Into Your Day!

    Bill is Always Playing Games With Me! But I like it.  Games were an interesting part of my childhood. They brought some of my best and some of my worst memories. Now they seem to trigger this happy place (even if I’m losing).   Read More...

  • What Your Busyness May Be Hiding From You!

    What is one of the most common responses you get when you ask someone how they’ve been? “Real busy”. It’s almost like if we aren’t busy something’s wrong.   Read More...

  • 5 Life Lessons from Trailer Living!

    It’s a small but mighty little book. It’s called “Life Lessons: Two Experts on Death and Dying Teach Us About the Mysteries of Life & Living” and it’s by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross (known best for the 5 stages of grieving) and David Kessler. This book has impacted my life in some powerful and practical ways.   Read More...

  • Planned Spontaneity

    I grew up in a military family. Lunch was at noon. Supper was at 5:00.   Read More...

  • 5 Lessons for Deep Diving

    I can barely swim so don’t take this literally, that is for sure! I’ve been impressed lately by both clients and friends doing the very hard work of personal deep dives. The people that have touched my life the most in wounding ways have been unable or unwilling to do those dives. So, what is it? What I am referencing is those times in life when we do a much more in-depth self-examination then at other times. When we are willing to recall painful events from earlier in...  Read More...

  • Spiritual Ears

    A trend that is allowing us all to be able to have shared language about our experiences is a move towards talking about our spirituality vs. our religion.  What is spirituality?   Read More...

  • Why I Love to Cry

    If you know me you know I cry easily.I worked hard for that. I had to learn to cry. Some of you can relate, some of you may think I’m crazy.There are the obvious reasons for loving a good cry.   Read More...

  • 7 “Cures” for Grumpiness

    We all have those days. We are just plain grumpy.You know the feeling. You can’t put your finger on one thing you are angry about or sad about.   Read More...

  • Planting Seeds

    Today I planted some snow peas. (Don’t hate me Canadian friends.) There is something so life-giving (pun intended) about starting plants from seeds. Since we are building a commercial venue at The Cedars we have had many landscapers out working.   Read More...

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  • Enriching Your Soil

    My garden teaches and illustrates many of life’s lessons for me. Today I want to focus on the importance of rich soil. Obviously this blog is not about gardening but the garden sure highlights some great principles.These two images are of the same plant, same seed but what a dramatic difference!There may be some other minor factors contributing but the two main differences between these two are 1) the soil and 2) regular watering.Let’s talk about soil.   Read More...

  • How to Become a Hero

    Over the last week, after the awe of the eclipse Texas has experienced the trauma of Hurricane Harvey.Many of our friends and family have been really impacted but all are safe, what a gift!It has been inspiring to watch the rescue efforts and to watch people gearing up to help for the very long next phase of rebuilding.Just like in the recently released movie Dunkirk, a historical account of how everyday people stepped in to rescue with their own boats, we are seeing ordinary people going door t...  Read More...

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