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  • Tools for Difficult Conversations

    This week I’m getting to speak in Wimberley. The Chamber of Commerce is having it’s first ever small business week with a day of seminars and a day of exhibitions. The topic is difficult conversation tools so let’s chat about that that today.As I prepared for the 1-hour workshop, I started by listing what does make conversations and conflict difficult at times:Old pain and old stories that get triggeredMaking the current conflict about way bigger themes instead of what is currentGetting defensiv...  Read More...

  • Conscious Relaxation

    Yesterday I fell asleep on my bed with my mouth full of food and my feet hanging off the end of the bed. It was the grown-up version of the toddler who face-plants into their food in their highchair.This is not my normal, in case you were wondering. I had 2.5 hours of dental work done and chose to be “consciously sedated”.   Read More...

  • Networking & Small Talk Strategies

    As a natural extrovert, networking and small talk come easily to me, but I still put thought in to them.If you are an introvert, networking and creating conversations with strangers may be both painful and exhausting. It is an important part of life and often brings gifts to those who do it well. Although you may never love it, I hope some strategies and ideas here will make it less painful and more productive for you.Maybe you don’t mind networking but don’t feel very good at it.   Read More...

  • Staying on Track with Goals

    I remember being amazed at how many women were pregnant when I was. Of course the number of women pregnant at the time was no higher.When something is on our consciousness in a different way we notice it more. If I buy a new car, “all of a sudden” I am noticing that car around everywhere.This is how our brain works.That funny saying is relevant here - “Don’t think about a pink elephant!”One of the best ways to stay on track with our goals and new patterns of behavio...  Read More...

  • Love Languages

    This week I'm sharing a blogpost that I wrote last year on love languages. It's always timely! Hope you enjoy!The idea that we hear love and speak love in different ways has been made widely popular and very accessible by the work of Gary Chapman. I highly recommend his book, in fact I give it to all the young couples in our family.   Read More...

  • Facing Fear in Texas Y'all!

    When it comes to fear in some ways I’m very fearless and in others I’m a scaredy cat. One of the highest ranked fears - public speaking - I quite enjoy. I don’t like having needles but they don’t really bother me.   Read More...

  • From Manipulation to Authenticity

    As promised (last week), today I want to focus on offering ideas for those of you who see this pattern in yourself but want to grow.Here is the tricky part. Manipulation often gets people what they think they want. It reinforces itself.If I don’t want to feel pain and by lying I avoid the pain then I’m likely to try that again.If I want you to feel bad for me and do something nice for me and that works then I’m likely going to use that perspective of myself as a victim again.The patterns around ...  Read More...

  • Influence or Manipulation?

    Baby’s do it, Moms do it, CEOs do it. The truth is, we all do it. Some of us overtly, some of us in ways we are not even conscious of.   Read More...

  • Upside Down Thinking

    On Monday I made a commitment to my personal trainer, who was coaching me, to journal about my upside-down thinking. Why not up the “vulnerability factor” and share that with you? I know that if I wrestle with something, there are other people out there wrestling too.So, when I take the self-compassion test by Dr.   Read More...

  • The Gift of Writing

    Recently I learned that there is not evidence to suggest that weekly or daily blogging supports your business in measurable ways. It takes time, energy and dedication. So, why am I still doing it? As I share my reasons you can be sure that I will be requesting that you consider the possible benefits for yourself.   Read More...

  • The Skill of Truth-Telling

    Whether it’s the omission of a fact, the little white lie or an intentional deception, we have all participated in offering an inaccurate slant on reality. Why do we do it? So many reasons. To impress, to avoid consequences, to avoid being judged, to try and get our own way, to avoid feeling shame, to avoid hurting someone else’s feelings, to get the job or the promotion. Current events have focused a lot lately on how the lack of truth-telling can come back and bite y...  Read More...

  • Don’t Tell Me I Can’t!

    There is a long list of things people have told me I can’t do, shouldn’t do, won’t be successful at doing. Many of those things I have done.  You too? There’s something about a challenge that I find hard to resist.   Read More...

  • 5 Principals of Encouragement

    As a coach I have the honor of getting to hear people’s very personal thoughts, fears and insecurities. We all have them.  We also all get to experience overwhelm at times.   Read More...

  • Lessons in Celebration

    Many years ago a friend gave me a Willow Tree Angel - this one:  I love her. I think of her as “Celebration” but she is actually “Courage”. Fascinating. Courage and celebration do go together I think.   Read More...

  • The Power of Mentoring

    There has been a lot to think about this past week. Somewhere around 100 topics have gone through my mind as things to write about. “Alternative facts”, the “Women’s Marches”, values-based leadership. Some days feel so consumed with negative or stressful news that I’m choosing instead to write about one of the other themes that is filling our lives. Bill and I are the new kids on the block when it comes to owning a wedding venue or being in any ...  Read More...

  • Infusing FUN Into Your Day!

    Bill is Always Playing Games With Me! But I like it.  Games were an interesting part of my childhood. They brought some of my best and some of my worst memories. Now they seem to trigger this happy place (even if I’m losing).   Read More...

  • What Your Busyness May Be Hiding From You!

    What is one of the most common responses you get when you ask someone how they’ve been? “Real busy”. It’s almost like if we aren’t busy something’s wrong.   Read More...

  • 5 Life Lessons from Trailer Living!

    It’s a small but mighty little book. It’s called “Life Lessons: Two Experts on Death and Dying Teach Us About the Mysteries of Life & Living” and it’s by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross (known best for the 5 stages of grieving) and David Kessler. This book has impacted my life in some powerful and practical ways.   Read More...

  • Planned Spontaneity

    I grew up in a military family. Lunch was at noon. Supper was at 5:00.   Read More...

  • 5 Lessons for Deep Diving

    I can barely swim so don’t take this literally, that is for sure! I’ve been impressed lately by both clients and friends doing the very hard work of personal deep dives. The people that have touched my life the most in wounding ways have been unable or unwilling to do those dives. So, what is it? What I am referencing is those times in life when we do a much more in-depth self-examination then at other times. When we are willing to recall painful events from earlier in...  Read More...

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    “He who knows others is wise; he who knows himself is enlightened.”― Lao TzuLately I’ve had the pleasure of having conversations with both family members and friends about their Myers-Briggs or StrengthsFinder results. The use of assessments is not the only way to increase one’s self-awareness but it’s a fun one!Partly the assessment gives you time to reflect and agree or disagree with statements in the tool about you.These kinds of tools can be used well and bring ...  Read More...

  • Top Five Leadership Qualities

    There are people that just stand out as different from the crowd. Sometimes for good reasons, sometimes, not so good.What is it that makes people get noticed? What leads people to getting promoted?   Read More...

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