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Everything listed under: Leadership

  • Lessons in Adjusting Your Conflict Lens

    It is a skill set all by itself - the ability to see a variety of possible intentions from people’s actions.Life has led us to have a fairly immediate first take - for some of us we see and interpret other people’s actions through rose-colored lenses. Some of us see the darker side or the skeptical perspective.Here’s the problem - we look at a behavior, usually, and make assessments about motivation and attitude.It’s pretty hard to know the sum total of someone’s heart by their actions. We can m...  Read More...

  • Team Building Practices

    This Fall many companies will offer team building activities for their teams. Money and time will be spent. What really are the goals behind team building and how do they apply to you?There are a number of reasons to do team building, including:increased knowledge of teammate’s personalities and behavioral stylesincreased awareness of one’s own impact on others in the teambuild trust and rapport through shared experiences, even if they are ‘just fun’increase awareness of each team member’s speci...  Read More...

  • Coffee & Meditation

    There is a bumper sticker in the town where I live that says something to this effect: “If I’m driving too slow for you, you are in the wrong town”.Depending what mood I’m in or if I’m in a hurry I either find this adorable or very frustrating.Some of you are living extremely busy work and personal lives. How, in the middle of that kind of pace can we practice “being in the moment”?There is so much research out now about the benefits of meditation and re...  Read More...

  • What Are Your Stories?

    Today’s blog is simple and is an invitation. I’m going to give you a few examples and would love to hear from you! The theme is:Really hard things that paved the way for great thingsIf I did not get refused entry to the USA over 4 years now, I would not have been able to be with my Dad while he was in his last year and dying.If GM had not gone bankrupt and ended Bill’s family dealership license Bill could not have come up to Canada when he did nor would we have the funds to pursue our dream of b...  Read More...

  • Trust and Intimacy

    Lucky for me I have found a career in coaching where I am supposed to do the thing that I love most in the world. Building trusting and intimate relationships. Not only because I’m an extrovert (that helps to be sure) but as a human I am hungry for authentic connection.   Read More...

  • Beauty From Brokenness

    During a recent training with other coaches the speaker mentioned this wonderful Japanese philosophy and resulting practice of kintsugi. It is a philosophy that our speaker powerfully embraced in his work. I wanted to know more and as I read about kintsugi I fell in love with this way of thinking. Let’s read a little from Wikipedia: “As a philosophy, it treats breakage and repair as part of the history of an object, rather than something to disguise.[5] … kintsugi ca...  Read More...

  • Soul Love

    Hello, I am Teresa Q. Bitner, a professional certified coach, speaker and author in Austin TX. I am passionate about partnering with those who have been knocked down by life and want to build resiliency and move forward with a bold life.   Read More...

  • Themes In Our Lives

    There are times in life when we can see themes running through our lives.Sometimes those themes are good, beautiful and feel like gifts. Sometimes the theme is hard, with hardship after hardship.Truly, after writing a book about resiliency I sure felt like I got to practice it, in some difficult circumstances.I’m actually not superstitious in general but I do joke about being careful about what you write about!Let’s ponder the idea of themes in 2 ways.1) Scientifically.When I was pregnant I noti...  Read More...

  • Cheesy Fear Quotes & A Way Forward!

    Nothing To Fear Day is celebrated on May 27 and Face Your Fears Day is celebrated on 13th Oct every year.Here is a great quote on our topic:“Fear is the path to the Dark Side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering.” ~ YodaQuote source: https://www.thefreshquotes.com/fear-quotes/There is so much written and so many ‘inspirational quotes’ about facing your fears, doing it anyway, etc.Some of that is wonderful but I think some of this thinking also just leaves us still a...  Read More...

  • 5 Steps To Becoming a Visionary Leader

    Our society has many examples of visionaries. Who do you find inspirational? How can you get on the journey to move towards being a visionary leader in your world, whatever sphere of influence that happens to be? “First described by Daniel Goleman in 2002, the visionary leadership style was one of six leadership types documented. The leader is inspiring in vision, and helps others to see how they can contribute to this vision; allowing the leader and followers to move together towards ...  Read More...

  • Top Five Leadership Qualities

    There are people that just stand out as different from the crowd. Sometimes for good reasons, sometimes, not so good.What is it that makes people get noticed? What leads people to getting promoted?   Read More...

  • 5 Principals of Encouragement

    As a coach I have the honor of getting to hear people’s very personal thoughts, fears and insecurities. We all have them.  We also all get to experience overwhelm at times.   Read More...

  • The Power of Mentoring

    There has been a lot to think about this past week. Somewhere around 100 topics have gone through my mind as things to write about. “Alternative facts”, the “Women’s Marches”, values-based leadership. Some days feel so consumed with negative or stressful news that I’m choosing instead to write about one of the other themes that is filling our lives. Bill and I are the new kids on the block when it comes to owning a wedding venue or being in any ...  Read More...

  • Communication Mistakes

    One of the most common communication “mistakes” is actually the lack of communication. This happens so much and for so many different reasons in the workplace.  So, what are some of the reasons why we don’t communicate:  I’ve not done what I should have done yet so I delay communicating  What I have to say may create conflict and I’m uncomfortable with that  Perhaps when I do update you, you won’t like or respect me as much  I’m simply buying myself s...  Read More...

  • Leadership and the Everyday

      Today I am writing to you from New Mexico. This has been my home away from home for approximately 9 years. It is my privilege to work with amazing leaders with a company here every year.   Read More...

  • Sneaky Stress & How To Deal With It

    Sometimes we know we are stressed out, other times we notice other symptoms and wonder why. Why do I keep having these headaches? Why is my stomach upset so often?   Read More...

  • Break Free From Playing Small

    Don’t you love those ‘aha moments’? I had one recently that was triggered by one of my favorite quotes.Most of you have heard that amazing Marianne Williamson quote, made especially famous by Nelson Mandela in his 1994 Inaugural Speech. Here it is:Most of my childhood I attempted to be either sweet or invisible.   Read More...

  • Learning from Entrepreneurs

     If you want to get energized, spend a couple days with over one hundred entrepreneurs from around the world!!!I just had the pleasure of doing so - attending business school for entrepreneurs in Stamford, CT. (Client Attraction Business School) Although the learning was tailored to growing your own business and working smart as owners, there are so many fantastic principles that apply to life in general.One activity we had to do was to divide our work in to 4 quadrants:1) What we excel at ...  Read More...

  • Leadership Skills and Your Love Life

    For 10 years now I have been coaching business leaders and executives and providing leadership development for companies in the form of certificate programs, seminars, coaching skills training and retreats. One comment I have received often is that a by-product has been an improved marriage or life partnership.  When you stop to think about it, it makes sense. I thought I'd list some of the leadership skills and principles that just make sense to "try at home".   Read More...