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Everything listed under: vulnerability

  • 5 Steps For Dealing With Shaming Behavior

    Lately I have been shocked at running in to the use of shaming techniques as a means of getting business done. It's not new. You've seen it many times and so have I.   Read More...

  • Friendship

    I am an “Air Force Brat”. By the time I was 5 I had lived in a few countries. My family moved less than many military families, thankfully, but I still learned to pack up and move on.Some of that was bad and I had to unlearn.   Read More...

  • Getting Comfortable With You

    I just had the privilege of being interviewed on Ms Entrepreneur. It was really enjoyable but also a chance to practice great self-talk and self-compassion.The amazing host, Janie, made the interview so enjoyable. A few weeks ago I was interviewed on the radio and that was a bit of a stretch for me.   Read More...

  • The Blame Game

    There are key ingredients, traits, outlooks, that enable some people to grow from feedback and personal insight and others to regress.You know some of the people that regress - they get defensive when someone points out something. They are experts at pointing the finger at multiple other people and circumstances to explain why it is not their fault. They always have a reason for why things went wrong and that reason is never their own mistake or shortcoming.You don’t have to be very old to...  Read More...

  • Your Emotions Are So Logical!

    Which came first, the emotion or the thought? It’s an interesting question and it matters when we either want to be more self-aware or create lasting change.There are assessments that measure whether a person tends more toward emotion or thinking. Myers-Briggs Type Indicator is a great example of that.Some of us feel first and then, hopefully, think about the situation, including our feelings.   Read More...

  • From Manipulation to Authenticity

    As promised (last week), today I want to focus on offering ideas for those of you who see this pattern in yourself but want to grow.Here is the tricky part. Manipulation often gets people what they think they want. It reinforces itself.If I don’t want to feel pain and by lying I avoid the pain then I’m likely to try that again.If I want you to feel bad for me and do something nice for me and that works then I’m likely going to use that perspective of myself as a victim again.The patterns around ...  Read More...

  • Upside Down Thinking

    On Monday I made a commitment to my personal trainer, who was coaching me, to journal about my upside-down thinking. Why not up the “vulnerability factor” and share that with you? I know that if I wrestle with something, there are other people out there wrestling too.So, when I take the self-compassion test by Dr.   Read More...

  • Don’t Tell Me I Can’t!

    There is a long list of things people have told me I can’t do, shouldn’t do, won’t be successful at doing. Many of those things I have done.  You too? There’s something about a challenge that I find hard to resist.   Read More...

  • Why I Love to Cry

    If you know me you know I cry easily.I worked hard for that. I had to learn to cry. Some of you can relate, some of you may think I’m crazy.There are the obvious reasons for loving a good cry.   Read More...

  • What Makes Authenticity So Hard?

    Authenticity. This was a popular blogpost from last June, so I thought I'd share it again. Authentic cuisine.   Read More...

  • Resilience - It's All in Your Head

    Well I had another blog ready to go today but I was just “presented” with a very live opportunity to share some resilience tools.In case it hasn’t been obvious, I have a commitment to being vulnerable, real and practical in Marilyn’s Musings. This morning takes all that to a new level.Monday morning my father-in-law passed away. At the age of 94 he left behind my mother-in-law, Priscilla, at the age of 92 after 65 years of marriage.Needless to say, there is a lot of raw p...  Read More...

  • The Power of Persuasion

      After a month away in Canada we came home to a pile of mail. Among the pieces was a "Labor Law Compliance Notice". It says in the letterhead, "Texas State Compliance" with an address on Congress in Austin.   Read More...

  • Comic Wisdom

    Facebook is such a source of wisdom at times. Recently many people have been posting the link to Jim Carrey's speech at the Maharishi University graduation ceremony. There are some profound statements in his talk that I want to highlight here.  "You can fail at what you don't want so you might as well take the chance on doing what you love." "So many of us choose our path out of fear disguised as practicality." "The effect you have on others is the most valuable currency there is." And last...  Read More...