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    Benefits of Diversity

    When I was eighteen months old I moved to live in a new country. Belgium. Not long later I was living in Germany.   Read More...

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    Narcissism: What It Means & How To Live With It

    It is highly likely that you have heard the word narcissist in the last month or so. Well, now you have!This word and concept are seemingly much more talked about than before and I think with good reason. Wikipedia presents indicators that it has increased in our current North American culture.   Read More...

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    Developing Personal Flexibility

    Just as there are many facets to emotional intelligence, so there are to resiliency. One key skill that contributes to both is flexibility.We all have an initial reaction to the word. I think of people who don’t need life to be rigid.   Read More...

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    5 Ways To Support Others’ Dreams

    On December 30th we received a new family member - such a great sign of new beginnings.New life. All hopes and dreams lie ahead. Full of possibility.There is nothing right now to get in the way of little David dreaming and creating the future he will end up wanting for himself.What gets in the way of us chasing our dreams?   Read More...

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    Communicating Without Assumptions

    My rug and my cabinet exterior are both made from recycled soda bottles. Many of my choices are fueled by my desire to live more environmentally friendly.So?So, when I was shopping last week and the lady after me in line at the grocery store got my attention to say “You know, it’s a small thing but you really should be using cloth bags!” it really pushed my buttons!I felt a compulsion to explain, justify, make her realize that she had no idea who she was saying that to.Of course I use cloth bags...  Read More...

  • Note to Self

    As part of the International Coach Federation Greater Austin chapter I have the opportunity to hear amazing speakers, often! Last night was one of our own, an amazing lady, Carolyn Scarborough. She is a writing coach helping people unleash their creativity.   Read More...

  • Leveraging the Benefits of Fresh Starts

    Growing up in an Air Force family I got to move more than many of you reading this. It wasn’t until I was well into adulthood though that I noticed the phenomenon that I want to share about today.When you move somewhere new and no one knows you, a couple opportunities present themselves.You get a fresh start. A chance to choose how you want to show up - to redefine yourself and how people will experience you.   Read More...

  • Blasting Through Barriers to Change

    We live in a world where looking at the positive is more “in” than ever. I’m a believer. Gratefulness, seeing the glass half full, ‘reframing’; these are all good things.There is a trap though that we can fall in to.   Read More...

  • What’s So Powerful About Coaching?

    It is International Coaching Week. I thought it would be a great time to talk about the power of coaching and what it is and is not.So often I hear people say “Oh I don’t think I need coaching, things are going well.” To use a sports analogy that would be like saying the Patriots don’t need a coach because they have won so many games. (Sorry if you are not a Patriots fan.)Coaching is best suited to people who are doing well.   Read More...

  • From Manipulation to Authenticity

    As promised (last week), today I want to focus on offering ideas for those of you who see this pattern in yourself but want to grow.Here is the tricky part. Manipulation often gets people what they think they want. It reinforces itself.If I don’t want to feel pain and by lying I avoid the pain then I’m likely to try that again.If I want you to feel bad for me and do something nice for me and that works then I’m likely going to use that perspective of myself as a victim again.The patterns around ...  Read More...

  • Influence or Manipulation?

    Baby’s do it, Moms do it, CEOs do it. The truth is, we all do it. Some of us overtly, some of us in ways we are not even conscious of.   Read More...

  • Upside Down Thinking

    On Monday I made a commitment to my personal trainer, who was coaching me, to journal about my upside-down thinking. Why not up the “vulnerability factor” and share that with you? I know that if I wrestle with something, there are other people out there wrestling too.So, when I take the self-compassion test by Dr.   Read More...

  • What Your Busyness May Be Hiding From You!

    What is one of the most common responses you get when you ask someone how they’ve been? “Real busy”. It’s almost like if we aren’t busy something’s wrong.   Read More...

  • 5 Life Lessons from Trailer Living!

    It’s a small but mighty little book. It’s called “Life Lessons: Two Experts on Death and Dying Teach Us About the Mysteries of Life & Living” and it’s by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross (known best for the 5 stages of grieving) and David Kessler. This book has impacted my life in some powerful and practical ways.   Read More...

  • Planned Spontaneity

    I grew up in a military family. Lunch was at noon. Supper was at 5:00.   Read More...

  • 5 Lessons for Deep Diving

    I can barely swim so don’t take this literally, that is for sure! I’ve been impressed lately by both clients and friends doing the very hard work of personal deep dives. The people that have touched my life the most in wounding ways have been unable or unwilling to do those dives. So, what is it? What I am referencing is those times in life when we do a much more in-depth self-examination then at other times. When we are willing to recall painful events from earlier in...  Read More...

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    Express Vs. Impress

    As much as we may want to not care what other people think of us, most of us are not entirely free from this annoying concern.For some people the concern over what people think of them rules their lives and controls their daily choices. It truly is a stifling way to live. In whatever way we adjust in order to present in acceptable ways to others, we compromise our true selves. “You can't base your life on other people's expectations.” - Stevie Wonder Lovely thought but how do we stop c...  Read More...

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    3 Steps To Encourage More Inspiration In Our Lives

    So, I just did the dishes, completed an on-line survey for a furniture store, browsed FaceBook … came back and looked at my blank screen again …Most weeks I can’t wait to sit down and write, I have something waiting to get out. What do we do in those times when we want to get inspired and nothing’s happening?What are the elements that go in to inspiration and why is it relevant to our lives? At least 99% of you reading this have plenty to do and no shortage of things waiting for your attent...  Read More...

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    7 Steps for Self-Coaching

    One of the things that consistently happens to people who have had a personal coach for awhile is that they start to coach themselves. This is not bad for business as a coach, this is truly cause to celebrate!We all are guilty of living just hoping that something specific will happen in our lives but not really doing much about it. Coaching moves us to action and strategy, two of the many reasons why it is so powerful.Behind the conversational flow of a great coaching session is a model, often w...  Read More...

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    Well, What Did You Expect?

    “Don’t get your hopes up”, “Lower your expectations”, “Don’t count your chickens before they hatch”.As advice goes, I personally think these 3 expressions are usually bad advice. (Honestly, they are sayings that push some invisible button deep inside of me!)It would seem that the idea behind them is that if you aren’t expecting much you won’t be as disappointed when you don’t get it.Maybe.I’m not so sure. Maybe you experienc...  Read More...