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Everything listed under: personal growth

  • Benefits of Diversity

    When I was eighteen months old I moved to live in a new country. Belgium. Not long later I was living in Germany.   Read More...

  • Narcissism: What It Means & How To Live With It

    It is highly likely that you have heard the word narcissist in the last month or so. Well, now you have!This word and concept are seemingly much more talked about than before and I think with good reason. Wikipedia presents indicators that it has increased in our current North American culture.   Read More...

  • Developing Personal Flexibility

    Just as there are many facets to emotional intelligence, so there are to resiliency. One key skill that contributes to both is flexibility.We all have an initial reaction to the word. I think of people who don’t need life to be rigid.   Read More...

  • 5 Ways To Support Others’ Dreams

    On December 30th we received a new family member - such a great sign of new beginnings.New life. All hopes and dreams lie ahead. Full of possibility.There is nothing right now to get in the way of little David dreaming and creating the future he will end up wanting for himself.What gets in the way of us chasing our dreams?   Read More...

  • Communicating Without Assumptions

    My rug and my cabinet exterior are both made from recycled soda bottles. Many of my choices are fueled by my desire to live more environmentally friendly.So?So, when I was shopping last week and the lady after me in line at the grocery store got my attention to say “You know, it’s a small thing but you really should be using cloth bags!” it really pushed my buttons!I felt a compulsion to explain, justify, make her realize that she had no idea who she was saying that to.Of course I use cloth bags...  Read More...

  • Why 2 Thanksgivings Aren’t Enough!

    Being a Canadian living in the States I get 2 Thanksgivings. Life is good! (I don’t even eat turkey :) )As Bill and I create our dream together we have so much to be grateful for.   Read More...

  • Increasing Your Self-Awareness

    “He who knows others is wise; he who knows himself is enlightened.”― Lao TzuLately I’ve had the pleasure of having conversations with both family members and friends about their Myers-Briggs or StrengthsFinder results. The use of assessments is not the only way to increase one’s self-awareness but it’s a fun one!Partly the assessment gives you time to reflect and agree or disagree with statements in the tool about you.These kinds of tools can be used well and bring a lot of understanding and acc...  Read More...

  • The Blame Game

    There are key ingredients, traits, outlooks, that enable some people to grow from feedback and personal insight and others to regress.You know some of the people that regress - they get defensive when someone points out something. They are experts at pointing the finger at multiple other people and circumstances to explain why it is not their fault. They always have a reason for why things went wrong and that reason is never their own mistake or shortcoming.You don’t have to be very old to...  Read More...

  • Tools for Difficult Conversations

    This week I’m getting to speak in Wimberley. The Chamber of Commerce is having it’s first ever small business week with a day of seminars and a day of exhibitions. The topic is difficult conversation tools so let’s chat about that that today.As I prepared for the 1-hour workshop, I started by listing what does make conversations and conflict difficult at times:Old pain and old stories that get triggeredMaking the current conflict about way bigger themes instead of what is currentGetting defensiv...  Read More...

  • Facing Fear in Texas Y'all!

    When it comes to fear in some ways I’m very fearless and in others I’m a scaredy cat. One of the highest ranked fears - public speaking - I quite enjoy. I don’t like having needles but they don’t really bother me.   Read More...

  • From Manipulation to Authenticity

    As promised (last week), today I want to focus on offering ideas for those of you who see this pattern in yourself but want to grow.Here is the tricky part. Manipulation often gets people what they think they want. It reinforces itself.If I don’t want to feel pain and by lying I avoid the pain then I’m likely to try that again.If I want you to feel bad for me and do something nice for me and that works then I’m likely going to use that perspective of myself as a victim again.The patterns around ...  Read More...

  • Influence or Manipulation?

    Baby’s do it, Moms do it, CEOs do it. The truth is, we all do it. Some of us overtly, some of us in ways we are not even conscious of.   Read More...

  • Don’t Tell Me I Can’t!

    There is a long list of things people have told me I can’t do, shouldn’t do, won’t be successful at doing. Many of those things I have done.  You too? There’s something about a challenge that I find hard to resist.   Read More...

  • Infusing FUN Into Your Day!

    Bill is Always Playing Games With Me! But I like it.  Games were an interesting part of my childhood. They brought some of my best and some of my worst memories. Now they seem to trigger this happy place (even if I’m losing).   Read More...

  • What Your Busyness May Be Hiding From You!

    What is one of the most common responses you get when you ask someone how they’ve been? “Real busy”. It’s almost like if we aren’t busy something’s wrong.   Read More...

  • Planned Spontaneity

    I grew up in a military family. Lunch was at noon. Supper was at 5:00.   Read More...

  • Express Vs. Impress

    As much as we may want to not care what other people think of us, most of us are not entirely free from this annoying concern.For some people the concern over what people think of them rules their lives and controls their daily choices. It truly is a stifling way to live. In whatever way we adjust in order to present in acceptable ways to others, we compromise our true selves. “You can't base your life on other people's expectations.” - Stevie Wonder Lovely thought but how do we stop c...  Read More...

  • 3 Steps To Encourage More Inspiration In Our Lives

    So, I just did the dishes, completed an on-line survey for a furniture store, browsed FaceBook … came back and looked at my blank screen again …Most weeks I can’t wait to sit down and write, I have something waiting to get out. What do we do in those times when we want to get inspired and nothing’s happening?What are the elements that go in to inspiration and why is it relevant to our lives? At least 99% of you reading this have plenty to do and no shortage of things waiting for your attent...  Read More...

  • 7 Steps for Self-Coaching

    One of the things that consistently happens to people who have had a personal coach for awhile is that they start to coach themselves. This is not bad for business as a coach, this is truly cause to celebrate!We all are guilty of living just hoping that something specific will happen in our lives but not really doing much about it. Coaching moves us to action and strategy, two of the many reasons why it is so powerful.Behind the conversational flow of a great coaching session is a model, often w...  Read More...

  • Well, What Did You Expect?

    “Don’t get your hopes up”, “Lower your expectations”, “Don’t count your chickens before they hatch”.As advice goes, I personally think these 3 expressions are usually bad advice. (Honestly, they are sayings that push some invisible button deep inside of me!)It would seem that the idea behind them is that if you aren’t expecting much you won’t be as disappointed when you don’t get it.Maybe.I’m not so sure. Maybe you experienc...  Read More...