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Everything listed under: personal transformation

  • Leveraging the Benefits of Fresh Starts

    Growing up in an Air Force family I got to move more than many of you reading this. It wasn’t until I was well into adulthood though that I noticed the phenomenon that I want to share about today.When you move somewhere new and no one knows you, a couple opportunities present themselves.You get a fresh start. A chance to choose how you want to show up - to redefine yourself and how people will experience you.   Read More...

  • Blasting Through Barriers to Change

    We live in a world where looking at the positive is more “in” than ever. I’m a believer. Gratefulness, seeing the glass half full, ‘reframing’; these are all good things.There is a trap though that we can fall in to.   Read More...

  • What’s So Powerful About Coaching?

    It is International Coaching Week. I thought it would be a great time to talk about the power of coaching and what it is and is not.So often I hear people say “Oh I don’t think I need coaching, things are going well.” To use a sports analogy that would be like saying the Patriots don’t need a coach because they have won so many games. (Sorry if you are not a Patriots fan.)Coaching is best suited to people who are doing well.   Read More...

  • From Manipulation to Authenticity

    As promised (last week), today I want to focus on offering ideas for those of you who see this pattern in yourself but want to grow.Here is the tricky part. Manipulation often gets people what they think they want. It reinforces itself.If I don’t want to feel pain and by lying I avoid the pain then I’m likely to try that again.If I want you to feel bad for me and do something nice for me and that works then I’m likely going to use that perspective of myself as a victim again.The patterns around ...  Read More...

  • Influence or Manipulation?

    Baby’s do it, Moms do it, CEOs do it. The truth is, we all do it. Some of us overtly, some of us in ways we are not even conscious of.   Read More...

  • Upside Down Thinking

    On Monday I made a commitment to my personal trainer, who was coaching me, to journal about my upside-down thinking. Why not up the “vulnerability factor” and share that with you? I know that if I wrestle with something, there are other people out there wrestling too.So, when I take the self-compassion test by Dr.   Read More...

  • What Your Busyness May Be Hiding From You!

    What is one of the most common responses you get when you ask someone how they’ve been? “Real busy”. It’s almost like if we aren’t busy something’s wrong.   Read More...

  • 5 Life Lessons from Trailer Living!

    It’s a small but mighty little book. It’s called “Life Lessons: Two Experts on Death and Dying Teach Us About the Mysteries of Life & Living” and it’s by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross (known best for the 5 stages of grieving) and David Kessler. This book has impacted my life in some powerful and practical ways.   Read More...

  • Planned Spontaneity

    I grew up in a military family. Lunch was at noon. Supper was at 5:00.   Read More...

  • 5 Lessons for Deep Diving

    I can barely swim so don’t take this literally, that is for sure! I’ve been impressed lately by both clients and friends doing the very hard work of personal deep dives. The people that have touched my life the most in wounding ways have been unable or unwilling to do those dives. So, what is it? What I am referencing is those times in life when we do a much more in-depth self-examination then at other times. When we are willing to recall painful events from earlier in...  Read More...