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  • Enriching Your Soil

    My garden teaches and illustrates many of life’s lessons for me. Today I want to focus on the importance of rich soil. Obviously this blog is not about gardening but the garden sure highlights some great principles.These two images are of the same plant, same seed but what a dramatic difference!There may be some other minor factors contributing but the two main differences between these two are 1) the soil and 2) regular watering.Let’s talk about soil.   Read More...

  • How to Become a Hero

    Over the last week, after the awe of the eclipse Texas has experienced the trauma of Hurricane Harvey.Many of our friends and family have been really impacted but all are safe, what a gift!It has been inspiring to watch the rescue efforts and to watch people gearing up to help for the very long next phase of rebuilding.Just like in the recently released movie Dunkirk, a historical account of how everyday people stepped in to rescue with their own boats, we are seeing ordinary people going door t...  Read More...

  • Leveraging the Benefits of Fresh Starts

    Growing up in an Air Force family I got to move more than many of you reading this. It wasn’t until I was well into adulthood though that I noticed the phenomenon that I want to share about today.When you move somewhere new and no one knows you, a couple opportunities present themselves.You get a fresh start. A chance to choose how you want to show up - to redefine yourself and how people will experience you.   Read More...

  • Blasting Through Barriers to Change

    We live in a world where looking at the positive is more “in” than ever. I’m a believer. Gratefulness, seeing the glass half full, ‘reframing’; these are all good things.There is a trap though that we can fall in to.   Read More...

  • Break Free From These 3 Time Stealers

    As is often the case for business owners, naming my business required a lot of wrestling. Capacity Building Coaching is about helping clients build their own personal capacity - with better emotional spaces, improved thinking, healthier habits, increased assertiveness and better strategy. It’s also about increasing the capacity of your business and team by doing all of these same things at both the individual level and at the group level.One big component to increased capacity is more strategic ...  Read More...

  • Friendship

    I am an “Air Force Brat”. By the time I was 5 I had lived in a few countries. My family moved less than many military families, thankfully, but I still learned to pack up and move on.Some of that was bad and I had to unlearn.   Read More...

  • Getting Comfortable With You

    I just had the privilege of being interviewed on Ms Entrepreneur. It was really enjoyable but also a chance to practice great self-talk and self-compassion.The amazing host, Janie, made the interview so enjoyable. A few weeks ago I was interviewed on the radio and that was a bit of a stretch for me.   Read More...

  • Paths to Independence

    As a Canadian living in the USA I get to celebrate Canada Day July 1 and Independence Day July 4. I’m intrigued by both the parallels and the differences those two celebrations have.Wikipedia has great little summaries:“On July 1 1867, at noon, New Brunswick, Nova Scotia, and the Province of Canada were proclaimed the Dominion of Canada, with John A. MacDonald its first prime minister.   Read More...

  • The Power of Storytelling

    It is summer and the perfect time to sit by the water with a great book. There is nothing like getting lost in a great novel.Last night I had the privilege of hearing Geri England, a coach from Dallas, TX, talk about the power of storytelling. It was a great evening with fellow Austin coaches, telling each other stories and having our stories heard.This is a gift both of my boys have, asking for stories.   Read More...

  • The Blame Game

    There are key ingredients, traits, outlooks, that enable some people to grow from feedback and personal insight and others to regress.You know some of the people that regress - they get defensive when someone points out something. They are experts at pointing the finger at multiple other people and circumstances to explain why it is not their fault. They always have a reason for why things went wrong and that reason is never their own mistake or shortcoming.You don’t have to be very old to...  Read More...

  • Creative Stress Releases

    Often one of the hardest questions I ask clients is to name the top 10 things that refresh them or “fill their tank” back up.It is rare to have someone be able to rattle off 10. Some, even with lots of encouragement, have a hard time doing so.Depending on whether you are an introvert or extrovert, what refreshes you may look drastically different. Then of course each of us is unique.What do most of us share?   Read More...

  • Diversity and Support

    Likely you would all agree that you want to be supportive to your friends and family. Me too. We want to encourage them in their endeavors, listen to their dreams and disappointments, celebrate with them and love them how they most enjoy being loved.This is a time in world history when we talk so openly about embracing diversity.   Read More...

  • Being In The Flow

    There are different words connected to this concept of “flow”. Intuition. Discernment.   Read More...

  • What’s So Powerful About Coaching?

    It is International Coaching Week. I thought it would be a great time to talk about the power of coaching and what it is and is not.So often I hear people say “Oh I don’t think I need coaching, things are going well.” To use a sports analogy that would be like saying the Patriots don’t need a coach because they have won so many games. (Sorry if you are not a Patriots fan.)Coaching is best suited to people who are doing well.   Read More...

  • Managing Stress

    This is a topic we keep visiting here but for good reason. I dare you to find 10 people who can honestly tell you that they are not that stressed right now!Today let’s talk about managing stress around big undertakings. I feel like I’m getting to practice this one as Bill and I tackle creating The Cedars.   Read More...

  • Tools for Difficult Conversations

    This week I’m getting to speak in Wimberley. The Chamber of Commerce is having it’s first ever small business week with a day of seminars and a day of exhibitions. The topic is difficult conversation tools so let’s chat about that that today.As I prepared for the 1-hour workshop, I started by listing what does make conversations and conflict difficult at times:Old pain and old stories that get triggeredMaking the current conflict about way bigger themes instead of what is currentGetting defensiv...  Read More...

  • Networking & Small Talk Strategies

    As a natural extrovert, networking and small talk come easily to me, but I still put thought in to them.If you are an introvert, networking and creating conversations with strangers may be both painful and exhausting. It is an important part of life and often brings gifts to those who do it well. Although you may never love it, I hope some strategies and ideas here will make it less painful and more productive for you.Maybe you don’t mind networking but don’t feel very good at it.   Read More...

  • Facing Fear in Texas Y'all!

    When it comes to fear in some ways I’m very fearless and in others I’m a scaredy cat. One of the highest ranked fears - public speaking - I quite enjoy. I don’t like having needles but they don’t really bother me.   Read More...

  • From Manipulation to Authenticity

    As promised (last week), today I want to focus on offering ideas for those of you who see this pattern in yourself but want to grow.Here is the tricky part. Manipulation often gets people what they think they want. It reinforces itself.If I don’t want to feel pain and by lying I avoid the pain then I’m likely to try that again.If I want you to feel bad for me and do something nice for me and that works then I’m likely going to use that perspective of myself as a victim again.The patterns around ...  Read More...

  • Influence or Manipulation?

    Baby’s do it, Moms do it, CEOs do it. The truth is, we all do it. Some of us overtly, some of us in ways we are not even conscious of.   Read More...