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Everything listed under: Communication

  • Developing Personal Flexibility

    Just as there are many facets to emotional intelligence, so there are to resiliency. One key skill that contributes to both is flexibility.We all have an initial reaction to the word. I think of people who don’t need life to be rigid.   Read More...

  • 5 Ways To Support Others’ Dreams

    On December 30th we received a new family member - such a great sign of new beginnings.New life. All hopes and dreams lie ahead. Full of possibility.There is nothing right now to get in the way of little David dreaming and creating the future he will end up wanting for himself.What gets in the way of us chasing our dreams?   Read More...

  • Communicating Without Assumptions

    My rug and my cabinet exterior are both made from recycled soda bottles. Many of my choices are fueled by my desire to live more environmentally friendly.So?So, when I was shopping last week and the lady after me in line at the grocery store got my attention to say “You know, it’s a small thing but you really should be using cloth bags!” it really pushed my buttons!I felt a compulsion to explain, justify, make her realize that she had no idea who she was saying that to.Of course I use cloth bags...  Read More...

  • Friendship

    I am an “Air Force Brat”. By the time I was 5 I had lived in a few countries. My family moved less than many military families, thankfully, but I still learned to pack up and move on.Some of that was bad and I had to unlearn.   Read More...

  • The Power of Storytelling

    It is summer and the perfect time to sit by the water with a great book. There is nothing like getting lost in a great novel.Last night I had the privilege of hearing Geri England, a coach from Dallas, TX, talk about the power of storytelling. It was a great evening with fellow Austin coaches, telling each other stories and having our stories heard.This is a gift both of my boys have, asking for stories.   Read More...

  • Networking & Small Talk Strategies

    As a natural extrovert, networking and small talk come easily to me, but I still put thought in to them.If you are an introvert, networking and creating conversations with strangers may be both painful and exhausting. It is an important part of life and often brings gifts to those who do it well. Although you may never love it, I hope some strategies and ideas here will make it less painful and more productive for you.Maybe you don’t mind networking but don’t feel very good at it.   Read More...

  • Love Languages

    This week I'm sharing a blogpost that I wrote last year on love languages. It's always timely! Hope you enjoy!The idea that we hear love and speak love in different ways has been made widely popular and very accessible by the work of Gary Chapman. I highly recommend his book, in fact I give it to all the young couples in our family.   Read More...

  • Influence or Manipulation?

    Baby’s do it, Moms do it, CEOs do it. The truth is, we all do it. Some of us overtly, some of us in ways we are not even conscious of.   Read More...

  • 5 Principals of Encouragement

    As a coach I have the honor of getting to hear people’s very personal thoughts, fears and insecurities. We all have them.  We also all get to experience overwhelm at times.   Read More...

  • Defensiveness

    I Am NOT Defensive! It is a truly rare thing to find someone who doesn’t easily get defensive. Extremely rare actually. Today I want to ponder some reasons behind why we get defensive so that we can figure out some more effective strategies moving forward. Increasingly I have people tell me that they read my blog after having had time with me to see if I’m writing something about them. I’m thrilled to have readers but I want to say up front - this blog is not abo...  Read More...

  • The Art and Science of Apologizing

    As a Canadian I can claim special expertise here, coming from a nation famous to quickly offer the “I’m sorry” whether it’s appropriate or not. There are so many ways that we use apologies, some great and some that are not so healthy. Let’s just go ahead and get the appropriate and easy ones out of the way. I did something wrong, made a mistake, in some way hurt or damaged someone and I apologize based on a thorough understanding of how I contributed. This...  Read More...

  • Communication Mistakes

    One of the most common communication “mistakes” is actually the lack of communication. This happens so much and for so many different reasons in the workplace.  So, what are some of the reasons why we don’t communicate:  I’ve not done what I should have done yet so I delay communicating  What I have to say may create conflict and I’m uncomfortable with that  Perhaps when I do update you, you won’t like or respect me as much  I’m simply buying myself s...  Read More...

  • 3 Ways to Naturally Boost Your Love Life

    Yes, this is a diversion from my normal topics but, believe it or not still in line with my normal themes around emotional intelligence. My mother did not do well giving me “the talk”. I did not do well listening to her try.   Read More...

  • Well, What Did You Expect?

    “Don’t get your hopes up”, “Lower your expectations”, “Don’t count your chickens before they hatch”.As advice goes, I personally think these 3 expressions are usually bad advice. (Honestly, they are sayings that push some invisible button deep inside of me!)It would seem that the idea behind them is that if you aren’t expecting much you won’t be as disappointed when you don’t get it.Maybe.I’m not so sure. Maybe you experienc...  Read More...

  • Break Free From Playing Small

    Don’t you love those ‘aha moments’? I had one recently that was triggered by one of my favorite quotes.Most of you have heard that amazing Marianne Williamson quote, made especially famous by Nelson Mandela in his 1994 Inaugural Speech. Here it is:Most of my childhood I attempted to be either sweet or invisible.   Read More...